After an incident of community violence, it is quite common for individuals and entire communities to experience anger and grief reactions. Grief is the sorrow and confusion that comes from losing someone or something important to you.
Most people will experience a natural occurrence of grief after the death of a loved one; however, grief can also be the result of other types of losses. In situations of community violence, people may experience the loss of their sense of safety, their trust in those who live in their neighborhood or their trust in local government. The trauma and grief of community violence can be experienced by all involved.
Common grief reactions
Your reactions to a death or loss of some kind will be unique to you, depending on your health, coping styles, culture, family supports and other life experiences. Typically, you will feel multiple emotions and experience several symptoms together, though perhaps to different degrees. Over time, emotions do ease.
Emotional and behavioral reactions
Emptiness
Emotional numbness
Withdrawal from others
Restlessness
Hypervigilance
Physical reactions
Trembling or shakiness
Muscle weakness
Nausea, trouble eating
Trouble sleeping, trouble breathing
Dry mouth
Grieving takes time
It takes time to accept and learn to live with the changes that have occurred in your community due to violence and its aftermath. People do not heal on a timetable; feelings and symptoms of grief can take weeks, months and even years to manifest and evolve. How long people grieve may also depend on the community's resilience and its ability to restore the community's basic needs, such as getting businesses back to work.
How communities can cope with their grief
Often the community needs to come together to understand the causes of violence, honor those affected and find meaning in a way that will help everyone in the community recover. It may help community members be determined to work out their differences in other ways in the future; for example, by forming a community advisory group or identifying a local leader to be their liaison with law enforcement and other government entities.
Easing your personal grief
Talking to others who understand and respect how you feel, such as family members, faith leaders and other people you trust, is a helpful way to ease your grief. Recognize that although you might still have these feelings over a long period, they will likely be less and less intense over time. Make sure to exercise and eat healthy meals. Do the things that you used to enjoy doing, even if you don't always feel like it. This will help you get back into your routines. Allow yourself to sometimes feel joy or cry when you need to.
Even though you may be experiencing grief, you may also exhibit positive changes from the experience of loss, such as:
Becoming more understanding and tolerant
Having increased appreciation for relationships and loved ones
Being grateful for what you have and for those in your community who are loving and caring
Experiencing enhanced spiritual connection
Becoming more socially active
Children’s reactions to community violence
Witnessing community violence can be particularly traumatic for children. Losing their sense of safety can represent the loss of social capital –the emotional support that enhances their wellbeing.
Tips for helping children cope with grief
Allow children to talk about their feelings and express their grief (e.g., crying or sadness)
Try to follow the same routines as usual
Encourage them to play and laugh
·Limit exposure to violence on TV news
Encourage them to get adequate rest and eat healthy meals
If you have been exposed to community violence, feelings of grief and anger are typical reactions. However, if these feelings persist, access your program’s resources for support and assistance. If you or someone you know is struggling, you are not alone.
Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS), Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)
